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Dating Tips For Singles

dating-tips-for-singlesAre you looking for dating tips for singles? Great, because I want to share some with you today! Do take note of what I have to say especially if you have your eyes on someone.

For a start it is important that you do not ignore the girl. Be ready for action, because women mostly don’t believe in second chances. Heard the proverb, “he who wants friends must first be friendly”? Go up to her and talk to her. Do everything you can to start a conversation and keep it going. By chatting with her, not only can you get to know her better but you are more likely to lower her defense mechanisms and she will be more open to getting to know you as well. Besides that benefit, you will also be able to decide whether the girl is your type of girl and whether you still want to continue dating her in the long run.

But while first impressions may count, it is important for you to also reveal to her your true self. What do I mean by that? Well, I do not encourage you to put on a facade if you manage to get subsequent dates with her. It is important that she accepts you for who you truly are. You cannot keep showing her a facade that seems so perfect. Doing that will only cause problems in future. Most girls are practical girls and so they are willing to accept men with flaws. Anyway you would not want materialistic or superficial girls or those who have extreme expectations about who they are dating.

With all that being said, I want to bring up this really important point that generally most women look for confidence in a man. If you feel that you lack confidence, I suggest you work on it. The easiest way to let your confidence shine is to walk up with her and start a conversation. Just talk to her like you would to another friend. It might seem tough, especially if you know that you like her and have feelings for her. If that’s the case then take a deep breath and put those feelings aside. Show her that you are a sincere man with no bad intentions. Just be yourself, like what I mentioned earlier.

There is one final tip I want to share; if you fancy receiving Dating tips for the next 12 month, here is your link. Make your move and hopefully, the next year can bring the wind of changes in your life.

I hope you have benefited from these dating tips for singles. I believe that if you be confident in yourself, you can get yourself a successful date. Feel free to contact me if you have questions.


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Shy Guy

Easy to identify, yet probably difficult to define, conceptualize, and measure what does self-confidence mean?

One of the main requirements to success, happiness and reaching your goals is confidence. Having enough self-confidence will also be useful in just about every part of your life.

Let’s get straight to the point you were not born with self-confidence, that is, self-confidence is not something innate this can be taught, nurtured and built over the years, at any stage in life.

Confidence is the personal ownership of no one; the person who has it learns it and goes on learning.

Your degree of confidence is truly the outcome of how you perceive yourself – which is eventually how people will perceive you. How people interrelate and respond to you is a reflection of how you perceive yourself.

Therefore if you don’t have a high degree of self-confidence or a huge deal of self-esteem then it’s mostly because you are concentrating on your negative traits and on what you are doing wrong.

In other words, you are being your own worst enemy! The good thing is that you can alter this and improve your self-confidence.

The most talented person on earth has to build confidence in his talents from the foundation of faith and knowledge, like anybody else. The device will be different from one person to the other, but the necessary job is similar. Confidence and attitude are accessible to all of us according to our skills and requirements not somebody else’s as long as we make use of our talents and develop them.

Self-confidence is an approach which lets individuals have positive yet reasonable viewpoints of themselves and their conditions.

Self-confident people trust their own skills and abilities, have a general sense of influence in their lives, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they desire, plan, and anticipate.

Having self-confidence does not necessarily mean that people will be able to do everything.

When we begin to feel lost or confused about various aspects of our lives, our first instinct is to search for direction. We feel sure that the answers we need are out there somewhere, and finding them will help us to know the right way to turn.

While seeking advice and guidance from others can be helpful at times, it is not always the best way to help ourselves. Rather than relying on someone else to tell us our truth, we can instead choose to look within and find the answers inside ourselves. Each of us has been given the gift of an inner adviser that will never steer us wrong.

This inner adviser is not pushy, however. He or she will not speak up unless we ask for help. When we finally open our hearts and minds to hear what our inner adviser has to say, the wisdom will begin to flow freely and our lives will begin to change for the better.

Overcoming the shyness can add a new quality to your emotional life. If you feel like you need Shy Guy Dating Guidance, go on and find one here.


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Soulmate quest


* Are you lonely?

* Do you think something is missing from your life?

* Do you want to attract your soulmate?

Some say that opposites attract. Others believe that they are a recipe for disaster. The truth is probably somewhere in between, but it is certain that the relationship with someone totally different from us has specific issues. It does not necessarily end up as a Hollywood marriages collapse because of insurmountable differences, but it is not guaranteed a bright future. Relationship with a partner of different temperament, character, interests, education, on one hand gives, on the other subtracts. It’s up you to measure which one prevails.

The person different from us will constantly remind that our way of looking is not the only possible, allowing our world to get more intense colors. In this relationship benefit open people who are willing to hear other people’s experiences. You will probably get out of your comfort zone, change the certain attitudes, and likely find yourself in unfamiliar and even uncomfortable situations.

And more similarities bring less reason for conflict. There is nothing wrong with the occasional debates, but if they are frequent, they can be exhausting for the couple, especially when one or both parties do not like conflicts. If the partners are not very flexible and stubbornly cling to their positions, relationship with someone who thinks otherwise is likely to irritate them.

In this kind of relationship we have to make more compromises if you want to spend quality time together. This means that everyone will have to give up some things they enjoy to gain enough time to spend together. It is a great challenge and a real test for people who are used to determinate everything around them to themselves and their needs

Integration of different personalities and interests can be exhausting, especially in a world in which we live too fast anyway, and where trouble lurking on all sides. For some people, especially those who appreciate the simple life without much turbulence, this can be extremely exhausting.

Studies confirm that similar partners are more likely to talk about each other as a soulmate. Finding “the right one” is not always easy. Get ready to change your odds and Start your Soulmate quest here.

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How To Get A Girlfriend You Always Wanted?


Success with women is always relative. You need to plan your goal in advance, and then plan out a road-map that will get you to that destination. Ask yourself: Do you want to date many women? Have sex with women? Find a steady partner? Find a woman to marry?

Starting with your goal firmly in mind is essential before you move forward. Be honest with yourself, too. Don’t go out there pretending to want a wife when you really just want to get laid and possibly have a short-term affair.

Once you’ve determined your goal, you set out to achieve it with measurable, achievable steps. The steps I promote are these:

1) Target and Engage: Get her phone number.
You need to Tease to Please her. With a planned approach, you tease her slightly, and then walk away with her phone number. (And, yes, it IS that easy.)

2) Contact her and set a “date”: Call her a few days later. (3-4 days). Then use the Tease to Please on her some more, and close for a date. Don’t settle for a weak commitment, either. Get it firm. It’s better to have her back out now than waste more of your time later on. There are too many fish in the sea to get caught up on one.

3) Meet her: Your first “date” is nothing more than getting together at a coffee shop so you can bust her chops and tease her some more, to see if she’s someone you could hang out with. You keep it short (no more than 45 minutes). And you spend no more than $5.00. You’ve got too many women to meet to waste your time on “potential.”

4) Re-contact: If the first meeting went well, you call her a few days later and setup something a little longer that will allow you to continue your seduction.

5) Meet her again: You move in more aggressively and go for your next goal: at least a kiss. If she doesn’t kiss you on this date, you’ve got a User on your hands. She’s the kind of gal who loves to date and get attention, but she’s not really into you. If you get the kiss, you progress to the next step.

6) Continue to meet with her until you meet your goal: Again, you’re systematically and confidently moving forward to the next step of getting more physically intimate with her.

Of course, if your goal is just to seduce a woman you’ve just met, maybe in a club or other location) than you need to amplify your attraction qualities, and move forward more aggressively with your progression. Be as brash and funny as you can. The more you convey that you’re a man who has something she wants, the more she’ll want you.

Confidence all along this continuum is of the utmost importance. You convey high self-confidence to a woman to impress upon her that you are a man worth knowing, and that she needs to find out what’s behind your mystery. You demonstrate self-confidence with your actions, and your words. Women respond to self-confidence like ants to a picnic, and that’s your mega-weapon for getting any lady you want.

These steps are only a basic outline, of course. If you want to go a step further, meet your couch in the following video and if you feel like breaking some stereotyping – go for it. It is really affordable.


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Male Confidence Meets Female Resistance

male-confidence-meets-female-resistanceWomen need confident men.

The reason why.

Men Attract, Women Resist.

And they both know that.

There is a polarity issue there that needs to be overcome.

Initially, it’s accomplished by a confident-competent man!

A man can avoid being rejected by having confidence in his own ability to advance and sustain the relationship through his decisive actions that are based on the emotions that he is currently feeling for the woman.

Once she knows how you feel, she will begin testing your confidence, ability and courage to do whatever it is you want to do with her.

When you meet a girl, you need to be interested in her for more than just her body. And you must stay calm.

If she’s your goal, she’ll become attracted to you as you calmly pass her resistance tests.

You found her. Now she intends to find you!

Probably the biggest reason why women want a man “to just be himself,” is because attracting a woman is not about anything fake. It’s not about pick-up lines. It’s about you! And how she relates to you.

You’ll be tested by her to reveal your confidence, patience, emotional calmness, ability, courage, assertiveness, persistence, aggression, playfulness, your vision of the future, how you control your social environment, and if you are happy where you are in your life.

If you have a reasonable grasp on most of these characteristics, you should do alright.

So let’s begin.

Women like taking small steps that lead to bigger steps.

You must be patient and take small steps toward getting her warmed up for what you have planned.

If you concentrate on being up front with your intentions and making small moves and offers that lead to bigger moves and offers. Her receptivity to your escalating moves and offers will give you all the clues you need to know about her level of arousal and her willingness to progress to the next level with you.

If she’s ready, you’ll need to have the courage to take her to the next level.

Unfortunately for her, weak dudes make the mistake of trying to lead her to the next level with a weak attempt, such as; “You could stay the night if you want to.” This shows her his lack of knowledge about her level of arousal and the feelings she has for him, and it indicates his lack of arousal and feelings. So now he has to wait around to get her approval. His approach to the interaction is emotionally weak, so he simply disqualifies himself from having a good night with her, because he won’t ask for what they both want.

Deep inside she wants to be with him, and that’s about as deep inside her as he’s going to get.

Women will reject a man that would rather not display dominant alpha male characteristics. Nice guys always seem to need approval before making a move. That is LAME! He’ll be rejected as a potential mate because he constantly seeks her approval instead of just making solid actionable decisions that are based on information she’s been giving him.

If she says no, then so be it. But, a man has to at least have the courage to try!

The Chase Flip

Let’s look at a strong example of exploiting the read. You kiss her then lean back to look into her eyes while saying, “If you knew what I want to do to you right now.” She’ll ask, “What do you want to do to me?” You take her and gently push her up against a wall, grab her hands and lift them over her head while you kiss her passionately and press your body against hers. Then slowly run your hands down her arms and the sides of her chest, then turn and walk away.

All of a sudden you are the one resisting her by walking away, and now she’s forced to take action. You’re making her chase you to get more of what you’ve got for her. Your action aroused her, then you take it away, and now her action must pull you in. Voila!

If she wants more, confidently tell her, “Stay with me tonight baby, I don’t want you to go.” This shows her that you have powerful feelings for her and that you are aware of her level of arousal, and you let her know that the feelings that she’s holding deep inside are mutually held. So you just had to let her know you want her to stay.

Give her small samples of your plans for her and she’ll feel the powerful emotions you have for her.

It’s not just what you say to her and what you want to do with her, it’s how you feel about what you say to her and want to do with her. As soon as you know that she feels the same way, you need to have the courage to do something about that!

Some women don’t know how they should feel about getting sexual with a man. If you are calm and relaxed about it, she’ll feel that way also. If you’re feeling super aroused, and she’s mirroring that! She’s ready to decide to stay?

All your confidence, courage, and leadership potential, is nothing without clear and deliberate action.

Let her know you want her to stay! If she’s turned on, you’ll both be glad she did!

She could still say “no”, and she has the right to do that, and a man should respect that. But for now at least, she knows how you feel about her, and how strong those feelings are for her. That is amazingly seductive to women. The next time you meet up with her could be spectacular! Some women won’t do one night stands. So give her something to think about. Second night stands can be good too!

A word on playing nice with others.

There are times when we all need to know when to back off. I certainly don’t condone abusing women, or forcing anything on them that they don’t want. Creating attraction is the mature way to win her affection.

Mixed Signals

Girls and guys both send out mixed signals. We both play the take away game.

When a guy sends out mixed signals, it’s to attract her. He’ll get her going sexually, then walk away.

When a girl sends out mixed signals, it’s to resist him. She’ll fail to acknowledge something you did, or pretend like she’s not pleased with something, or just not impressed. She needs to see if he gets all emotional or stays calm.

Just keep doing what you want to do. And she’ll be a little more attracted.

Be Direct With Her.

Let her know you’re interested in her as more than just a friend.

Reveal the emotions you have for her.

Don’t be ashamed of your feelings!

It’s not just what you say to her, it’s how you feel about what you say to her.

Bad boys are attractive to women because they let their emotions guide their actions.

Some guys are always walking on eggshells around women.

Don’t get all hung up on what she might or might not do.

Just say what you want to say to her, and do what you want to do with her!

You can only control your actions, not her reactions.

So focus on what you can control.

Girl Game.

Masculine energy is supposed to be the active energy in a relationship, I’ll grant you that.

You should expect the man to initiate, most of the time. Although, aroused girls do initiate!

Girl Game is all about looking good, staying fit, being open, available, responsive, reacting, reciprocating interest, caring, trusting, accepting, rejection, resistance, saying no, finding fault and competence in a male prospect, letting his emotions guide your actions, and loving.

A girl’s feminine energy is the responsive energy and it is very powerful even though to girls, it’s no big deal.

Men really like it! Well most of it anyway. We like the good looking, fit, open, interested, caring, trusting, accepting, positively responding, loving and being available parts. We usually have problems with the negative reacting, resisting, rejecting, saying no and finding fault parts.

Resistance is the active part of girl game.

Learn to welcome female resistance. Without her resistance you can’t show her your abilities to get what you want. You’ll notice some women cringe when they give you resistance. I know I have. They don’t always like doing it!

But they do it to see what kind of man you are. To see if you’ll calmly and competently just keep focused on doing whatever you want to do with her, even with the added pressure of her giving you some resistance or mixed signals. Do that and she will definitely want to know more about you! Why?

Because you’ve proven that your confidence is based on competence. That you are an alpha male who knows what he wants, and knows how to get it!

You don’t get all nervous and start apologizing for what you’re feeling and doing, like an emotionally weak beta male would do. You do what you want to do. And you’re cool with that!

Her resistance gives you the opportunity to display the qualities and competencies that make you such a confident man. By offering this proof about who you are, you’ll peak her interest in you and she’ll start chasing you!

The pull of attraction and the push of resistance is completely normal and has to happen between a man and a woman. That is what “The Game” is all about!

Pulling/attracting takes some skill because you need to really be in touch with what you feel about women and what you feel for this particular girl.

Pushing/resisting takes some skill for the girl to do without causing offense. This may surprise you, but most women don’t always like to resist a potentially high quality man. But, she has to!

The tension caused by the pull and the push will bring the two of you together. She knows how difficult this is for you, and when you just handle it with no problem, then she’ll know you are unique among men. And she is right!

Don’t be offended, she’s giving you the rare opportunity to prove how masterfully you handle things. And when you do, she’ll be more attracted to you. So just be yourself, keep your eyes on the prize, and know you’ve got this!

Resistance and Attraction – Role Reversal Loop.

When you break rapport or walk away, you’re playing the resistance game. When she shows interest and chases you, she’s playing the attraction game. This completes the loop that starts with male attraction and female resistance.

Man accepts girl, girl accepts man.

Connection made!

Make it fun.

You will find that the polarity between attraction and resistance will always be there between you and your girl. So if you want her to keep thinking of you as her attractive man, you’ll be playing this game for the rest of your life.

So keep it fun.

Girl game is very important. Resistance (101)

So why are most guys not players in the resistance part of “the game”?

Because, they think resistance is a sign that she’s rejecting them.

But, here’s the real point of it all, true confidence comes from a sense of competence.

So she has to test that male confidence. Plain and simple.

She’s not being mean, she resists to see how he handles the pressure.

How else will she know that his confidence is based on something real?

Hot Guy (101)

Being confident makes you the hot guy every woman wants.

You will be desired by women just like hot girls are desired by men.

But, women can’t see your hotness, like we can see theirs.

Hot Guy (201)

You have to be strong and stable enough to let her go in and find it!

We both probe each other, just in different ways.

You let her in, she lets you in.

Yes, it’s that important!

Attraction vs. Resistance.

It’s not a battle. It’s just simply a polarity issue.

Masculine Dominance Meets Feminine Submissiveness.

The give and take creates the attraction and connection between the man and the woman.

At times the polarity can temporarily turn into feminine dominance and male submissiveness.

She’ll display her confidence now and then, by taking the lead on occasion.

Women know that being sexually assertive is sexy.

She wants to feel sexy by acting sexy.

She can be passively sexy looking, and also, assertively seductive. That way she gets to experience being physically attractive and sexually dominant. That is very sexy to women!

Most men can be sexually dominant. But, being physically attractive isn’t a huge concern for most guys. Because women really aren’t turned on by a man’s body, like women’s bodies turn us on.

On Being a Sexy Gentleman.

Now here’s the really tough part for me as a man. And that is having patience!

When I first meet a girl, I’ve found that the only way I can talk with women I like, without coming off as a total sex maniac, is to patiently open her with mostly platonic (non-sexual) conversation. Just talk about what she’s doing, what she’s wearing, stuff like that. Touch her with a handshake (non-sexual touching). And as the conversation progresses I spice it up by mentioning something sexy, and to accentuate something I said, I’ll touch her in increasingly sexually charged ways.

Surely if she’s enjoying being with a man that’s interested in her and is not afraid to be a man in her presence, and I’m escalating toward having sex, she’ll interact with me on that level. If it makes her feel connected and wanted when I touch her, she’ll let me know by mirroring what I’m doing to her. I rub her leg, she rubs mine.

Patience is a virtue! And it is attractive!

Turning Her On.

Something most guys don’t know is that girls who like you, might never sleep with you. But a girl who is turned on by you will try to get you into bed with almost no further effort on your part. She doesn’t have to like you, to want to have sex with you. But if she’s turned on, and chasing you, it’s easy to get her into bed.

Most of the problems women have with men is when the man is incapable of turning them on. If I find there are roadblocks to me turning a woman on, I’m introducing myself to the next girl. Why waste my valuable time. There has to be good things happening for me to stay with her.

She gets turned on, good! She doesn’t. Oh well. Gotta move on!

Well, I’m certain that you found some helpful tips in this article.

Put them into action, it’ll change the way women see you and react to you.

So don’t just sit there feeling better about yourself.

Get out there are start dating hotter women.


This article is intended to be applicable to men and women.

So girls, you are acting naturally when you resist men.

This article explains to men what resistance is and what it isn’t. And how to deal with it like a man.

Resistance is not rejection.

Men have to see things to be aroused. Women have to know things to be aroused. Generally, that’s just the way it is.

As you have seen though, occasionally guys have to take a gamble on resisting girls, and we too risk losing.

So Cheers to you girls. Keep playing your part.

The more guys and girls this article reaches, the better.

So tell your friends.

We all need an overview of the male – female interaction (“Game”) from the standpoint of how men are expected to approach an interaction, and how women are expected to approach it as well.

For more information about approaching, attracting and arousing women, you can visit our website at http://www.sheslookingforyou.com/shes-looking-for-you/

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